ghoultude asked: If you could open a yoga studio what would you name it?

I suppose “Die” would be a little too intense? Sometimes I feel like I get on my mat and just die into it.  

Yeah that’d be a horrible name though. No one let me do that. 

Namaste :P

rebelathearttt asked: hello! I've been reading about the law of attraction for awhile now, and a part of it says you can attract the type of person you want into your life or a specific person. But I'm having a hard time understand this concept. Especially when it says longing or being desperate for the person pushes them away because of the energy you send them. But how can one think of someone constantly without it eventually turning obsessive and into a longing for them. Please help me to understand

Attraction seems to flourish in the sincere absence of need. Often it is when we give up and surrender that we are finally open to grace. 

We really have no control as to who finds us truly attractive. Perhaps physical appearance, social status, career, income, and whatnot all pose as being desirable. But is that attraction? Intimate attraction is more than the sum of its parts. 

A magnet doesn’t need to know about metal in order to attract it. Similarly, you don’t intellectually need to know what you want to attract. In fact, as you have pointed out, getting too hung up on that leads to obsession, neediness, and desperation. 

A magnet attracts by being attractive. Duh, right? So too will you attract graceful circumstances if you make yourself attractive. But as I said to begin with, attraction flourishes in the absence of need. To be without need, to be in a state of surrender, is to be attractive.

In that place, there is no thought of what you can get out of it. There is no thought of what “I” want. It is already Whole. 

“The most exquisite paradox…as soon as you give it all up, you can have it all. As long as you want power, you can’t have it. The minute you don’t want power, you’ll have more than you ever dreamed possible.” ~ Ram Dass

I am not a proponent of the whole “law of attraction” thing because it emphasizes the attraction over the surrender. It fools people into thinking that what they receive is the goal, the reward. In a sense, it perpetuates the illusion in desire. There is some limited use in the law of attraction, for example when someone is trying to heal, but there is limitless use in surrender, for surrender is its own reward. 

What if the person you want to attract isn’t the person you need? What if there is a possibility waiting for you that you have not or cannot yet conceive? The problem with the law of attraction is that it assumes you know what is best for you. By all means, obsess and attract and cling to whatever you wish. But what is it you really want: lasting happiness or the objects of your desire?

Find out. A good place to start, which does touch on the way life responds harmoniously to inner harmony, is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. 

Namaste :) Much love. 

So the single most vital step on your journey toward enlightenment is this: learn to disidentify from your mind. Every time you create a gap in the stream of mind, the light of your consciousness grows stronger. One day you may catch yourself smiling at the voice in your head, as you would smile at the antics of a child. This means that you no longer take the content of your mind all that seriously, as your sense of self does not depend on it.

Eckhart Tolle

Silence is not the absence of sound, but the absence of self.

Anthony de Mello

shineonsunflower asked: What is grace to you?

"It is by God’s grace that you think of God. We are God. Seeing ourselves as God is itself Divine Grace." ~ Sri Ramana Maharshi

For me, Grace is remembering to remember.

Not a remembering in terms of memory but rather one of awakening. 

You remembering God and God remembering You. It comes through circumstances and the people we meet and the course our lives take.

The highest form of grace is the blessing of a spiritual practice. It benefits all. 

Namaste :)

sincerelilac asked: Where does wisdom come from?

Learning comes with time. You practice, you make mistakes, you grow. 

Wisdom is that which takes no time. It precedes the very idea of time. Wisdom is innate.

In Buddhism, this is called buddha nature. All beings have buddha nature, the seed-like dormant form of wisdom. 

Words can be spoken from a place of wisdom, but words themselves are not wise. Actions can be taken from a place of wisdom, but actions themselves are not wise. 

In India, if you are seeking realization, you find a guru who is realized and they show you the way. You find realization within yourself. Then you are part of their lineage and you show others who come to you the way.

But who was the first guru, the first realized human? Who taught them?

From where did all of the spiritual paths spring forth? 

You could say God or the Divine or the Tao or whatever, and you wouldn’t be wrong. But none of those come from outside. They are within. 

Just as all rivers meet in the ocean, all paths meet in the Self within. There is no other place from which could may come.

Namaste sis

The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.

George Bernard Shaw

Sri Ramana Maharshi

Sri Ramana Maharshi

lookaflyingsaucer asked: Is folly an innate human attribute? I once came across a book called, The Hindu Quest for the Perfection of Man (or something like that). Some believe it is possible for a human to be perfect, act perfectly, perfect love, perfect judgment, perfect compassion. Although, I think perfection is sort of a myth, and the closest thing to it is total acceptance of folly. What do you think? "At least he will shed his gravity ... abandon his rockbound principles, and for a while be a silly fool" -Erasmus

Cannot folly itself be perfect? 

"Nothing being more important than anything else, a man of knowledge chooses any act, and acts it out as if it matters to him.  His controlled folly makes him say that what he does matters and makes him act as if it did, and yet he knows that it doesn’t; so when he fulfills his acts he retreats in peace, and whether his acts were good or bad, or worked or didn’t, is in no way part of his concern. 

A man of knowledge may choose, on the other hand, to remain totally impassive and never act, and behave as if to be impassive really matters to him; he will be rightfully true at that too, because that would also be his controlled folly.” ~ Carlos Castaneda 

The idea of perfection is very serious, very uptight. Those who are oriented toward perfection must be taking themselves and their circumstances too seriously. Perfection cannot be perfect because it is afraid of imperfection. 

Life, especially human life, is a folly, a game. Knowing this for one’s self, we can come to know that of which perfection is but a shadow. 

The attempt for perfection is the attempt to transcend human limitations. Does the perfect person with the perfect life have any worries? All is in its right place; all is peaceful. Yet if that perfection comes from their body, mind, or circumstances, then it is impermanent and therefore threatened by change. 

Humanity is a game being played by God the Self as you right now. A game is not a place for perfection, it is a place to enjoy ourselves, to give ourselves over to folly yet also play within the rules. This Castaneda called ‘controlled folly’. 

If being human is a divine game, a divine sport, then what place does perfection have? In playing a game, perfection is contrary to the idea of sporting. In sport, you let things get messy, you play around and have fun. Before scores and winners and losers mattered, sporting was a way of setting ourselves free from the context of society. 

From the perspective of absolute truth, we are not and never were humans. So taking ourselves to be human is innately folly—not the humanness itself but thinking it to be our one real existence. If perfection is what you really seek, where else will it be found but in awakening from the illusion of separation and realizing yourself as what you truly are?

Then perfection is not attained or forced or fixed. It is found to already be there as your eternal presence. 


Remember one thing: meditation means awareness. Whatsoever you do with awareness is meditation. Action is not the question, but the quality that you bring to your action.

Walking can be a meditation if you walk alertly. Sitting can be a meditation if you sit alertly. Listening to the birds can be a meditation if you listen with awareness. Just listening to the inner noise of your mind can be a meditation if you remain alert and watchful.


universeplant asked: I believe deeply in the yin yang and the concept that opposites exist in harmony within ourselves and in the universe. But if happiness and sadness can be described as opposites, is there any way to have happiness without sadness? Because I don't want sadness, I want peace, but is sadness a part of that inner peace?

Happiness, as it is commonly known and experienced, is unconscious bliss. Bliss is the nature of existence, the undivided godlike self of all. 

Any happiness you have ever experienced is an unconscious form of that bliss. The apparent duality of happiness and sadness is due to the unconscious ways in which we seek happiness. 

Happiness is realized as the bliss within when the ignorance of our assumed division from the undivided living eternity is no longer taken for granted. 

Everyone is seeking happiness in some form or another. And no one wants a happiness that ends. For many of us this is an intuitive part of our fear regarding death. We equate happiness with existence. 

That is our innate wisdom. Happiness and existence as one. However, when we take our existence to be these senses, this body, mind, and derived identities from there, then we put limits on what forms of happiness are possible. Then opposites, called duality, seem to appear. 

All the while nothing has changed. The infinite mass of being-consciousness-bliss remains as it always was in you as you. 

If we seek happiness in temporary things by temporary means, then we will only find a temporary happiness. So the only sane option is to seek that eternal happiness called joy by that eternal means called Being. 

Then we will know conscious happiness: bliss. 

This is not a truth meant for those wishing to live in the world as a person. Those who know bliss never again know a world or a person. 

Namaste sister.

hugglyduckling asked: I'm about to enter the community service field, and I wonder how you accept the stories of suffering and pain of so many who write to you, process them, and are able to come to a peacefulness? I understand meditation can help to observe and accept, and working in this sector comes from wanting to support and help, but I can't stop thinking of their stories. My mind is involved as I ruminate, and observing feels like letting go of positive change. Equilibrium is difficult to grasp. Peace.

You have to accept the stories of suffering if you are going to relate to them at all. We will never truly know another person’s suffering. But by knowing and confronting our own, we can appreciate another’s. 

How can you give another person peace? You can’t. You can only show them what it looks like. You can listen and even though the experience wasn’t yours, you can appreciate it as it is. If you can’t be at peace with it, how can you show others that peace is possible?  

Life is a terrifying challenge. We must be there for each other and help where we can. Not only on deliberate occasions such as through charity, but also in the way we relate to each other even as individuals who have never met, “strangers” as it were. 

Your mind is involved as you ruminate, yet has it come to a place of peace and insight? Neither can come from the mind, although they can be brought to the mind. 

Observing to you feels like letting go of positive change, yet how can you know what to change if you can’t patiently observe until the dust settles and you can see things as they are? Taking a step back isn’t a matter of distance but of patience and letting go. 

You do not help people by suffering along with them. There is enough suffering in this world without spreading it around further. 

In my case, I have no answers for anyone. We are the ones with the potential for the best perspective regarding how to solve our life problems. No one else knows the reality of being who we are and vice versa we cannot assume to know others in such a way. 

What we can offer are ways of finding new perspectives on old problems. But what the individual does with those perspectives, how they apply perspective to their current struggles, is entirely up to them. 

We can point the way and love and cry and encourage but in the end the power to heal from suffering comes from within. 

Finding that within yourself is a way of life, as is encouraging others. 

Tonglen meditation and The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron are an excellent place to start. 

Namaste my friend :)

All Are Included

How can you fear anyone

when you are on their side?


in a traffic jam

does not set one driver

against another.


the flow of the whole

as the most useful

for all,

there is no fear,

no preference,

just Flow. 

We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.

T.S. Eliot

rhymeswithmelody asked: I have completely lost myself. I am so disconnected. Which is probably why this, what seems to feel endless, stroke of bad luck has been happening. I need to find peace. Get back to myself. My roots. Get back to who I am and who I'm supposed to be. How do I do this? And feel light and at peace again?

You can lose something you have; you cannot lose something that you are

You are not an object that can be lost or disconnected. Which isn’t to say that you cannot have the experience of being lost or disconnected but rather that those experiences are not indicative of any real truth. They are just experiences, however unpleasant they may be. 

Peace does not mean getting rid of these feelings in favor of different feelings. Peace is in allowing space for all these experiences to be as they are. 

How is that different from the way you are experiencing them now?

Right now you feel as though something is wrong. You are resisting and withholding acceptance. 

I have noticed that this notion of ‘bad luck’ is not without some legitimacy to it. For example, when I find myself caught in annoyance and resistance and overall discontentment, it effects the way I both perceive and act. Perception and action from a place of ignorance will only lead to more ignorance and therefore suffering. 

Then things don’t unfold so well. It is less harmonious, which then appears as ‘bad luck’. As a result, we start feeling a strain between where we feel ourselves to be right now and where we think we should be. 

Peace, however, is just floating on the river’s current. It is surrender. 

A very simplistic example of this is a homework assignment you don’t want to do. If you resist it, you may start getting one problem wrong after another, and therefore grow exceedingly discouraged at this stroke of ‘bad luck’. Then in a fit of divine madness, you tear up the homework and start over, much slower and much more attentive this time. 

You don’t feel good or bad, you just give the homework the attention it needs. By the end of it, you comprehend the whole thing thoroughly and it no longer seems like an undesirable thing—nor is it something new to desire. This is indication of being free of something, when you are neither attached nor averse. 

You are right that you need to come back to yourself but there is nowhere else for you to do it but right where you stand, here and now. 

Don’t trust your feelings and don’t trust your thoughts about how you should feel. Just be open. 

Daily meditation is an essential part of this Way. I’d also recommend the book The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. 

Namaste sis much love