lexualhealing420 asked: My boyfriend of two years and I recently broke up. Although I am a college student and have much living to do, I have never felt so heartbroken. I love him deeply and have developed habits of putting him before myself. The pressure of school and the uncertainties we face at this age has made it difficult to have a fulfilling relationship. We love each other but have different ideas of commitment. How do I stop myself from thinking about what I could have done differently? Peace and love.

Behind the uncertainty, confusion, and wish to change things, there is a genuine emotion waiting: sadness. 

Sadness is a wise friend who we tend not to welcome. Sadness and pain often come together. 

But why is sadness wise? Because it is the natural response of an open heart when it meets with impermanence. 

College days are pretty formative times. Don’t make a habit of avoiding sadness like everyone else. Listen to its wisdom. 

Who puts whom before what and ideas of commitment can come later. Listen to this sadness and feel this pain. Recognize the uncertainty of simply being alive. Without love we will not live sanely, not only personally but also as a species.

“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.” ~ The Dalai Lama

However, love is much more than the definitions we append to it. The place in which we feel love is the same place from which we radiate love. It is a natural element to our being, forgotten by the clinging and the fear and the confusion. 

There is nothing wrong with you. Inwardly, we are nothing other than eternity, living joyous emptiness. But if we don’t know this for ourselves, then we try to know ourselves through outward appearances. And outwardly, we are continual works in progress. Things coming together and falling apart. It never ends.

Now is not the time to look back. It is the time to look within and listen. Be patient. 

It is good to trust that love may come your way another day, but it is better to get at love right now within your very existence. This means having something to share in a relationship as opposed to need. That gives you strength. It also means never knowing a day without love for the rest of your life. 

I would suggest starting with the book The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron and daily meditation. 

Namaste sis :) Much love. 

May I act as the mighty earth
Or like the free and open skies
To support and provide the space
Whereby I and all others may grow.

Shantideva

hosaeng asked: Hi lazyyogi I feel very blessed, how can I express my gratitude to the life I have if there's no duality in God. Namaste brother. :)

Well, if there’s no duality in God then who is expressing the gratitude and love? It is God’s love and gratitude expressing itself to God.

A common understanding of the spiritual path is the notion of destroying the ego. But in reality, the path reveals that the ego never existed, that separation never existed, and that this identity you take to be yourself never existed. 

There is only something perfectly indescribable and alive. 

That being said, this question only arises because you have not made the nondual nature of God your own understanding born of experiential insight. 

This doesn’t happen through belief or contemplation, although both may be of temporary use along the way. But in the end, you need the unperturbed conviction that comes with knowing by the power of your own certainty. 

You are indeed blessed, brother. Be grateful and at the same time liberate that gratitude.

Namaste

There are times to cultivate and create, when you nurture your world and give birth to new ideas and ventures.

There are times of flourishing and abundance, when life feels in full bloom, energized and expanding.

And there are times of fruition, when things come to an end. They have reached their climax and must be harvested before they begin to fade.

And finally, of course, there are times that are cold and cutting and empty, times when the spring of new beginnings seems like a distant dream.

Those rhythms in life are natural events. They weave into one another as day follows night, bringing, not messages of hope and fear, but messages of how things are.

Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche

floridsmoke asked: How can I not cling to people in my life? Everyone I meet carries great importance to me and letting them go is hard for me to understand

Here is a good question to ask of your clinging: What is its purpose?

When life is uncertain, it is not your clinging that keeps them here; it is your love. And when it comes to life’s vicissitudes, no matter how much you love and cling, those people will leave your life. Be it through change or death. 

So while clinging pretends to be of use, it is not. It’s like worrying.

Furthermore, if you are clinging, then there is less room for everything else. Less room for love, less room for lightheartedness, less room for freedom. All of this is overshadowed by the need to control, which is all that clinging boils down to: control. 

Therefore not to cling means to surrender your control, which you never really had. Love fully not because you are afraid to lose these people but because they are so important to you. Appreciate them but don’t try to control them. Give them freedom. 

"If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession.
Love is about appreciation.”

~ Osho

Don’t try to possess. Not only will you fail but you will suffer. 

Yet when you let go you will see for yourself that they do not go anywhere. They are still here.

So why cling in the first place? Another good question to ask yourself. 

Namaste :) Much love

thesheepxthewolf asked: Hey man, quick question: if you could (or were forced to) move to any country, which one would you go to? is there any part of the world that appears to have the most sanity? greatly appreciate your opinion; thanks for your thoughts. diggin the new wallpaper btw, v engaging composition

For the past few weeks I’ve been delving into Tibetan Buddhism and it’s just been a series of one beautiful surprise after another. I can’t believe an entire culture such as theirs even existed. 

So if I had to go somewhere else, right this moment, I’d head over to Dharamsala, India, where the Tibetan refugees have found a home.

And, if we’re speaking in hypotheticals here, supposing I were to already be a doctor, I could practice medicine there, learn other forms of medicine, and study under the Buddhist monks. 

But I wouldn’t expect to find any more sanity there than here. The only sanity we find anywhere is the sanity we bring with us. 

Namaste my friend!

PS. Glad you dig the wallpaper. I’m a HUGE fan of the artist, who’s a tumblrite

Perhaps the deepest reason why we are afraid of death is because we do not know who we are. We believe in a personal, unique, and separate identity — but if we dare to examine it, we find that this identity depends entirely on an endless collection of things to prop it up: our name, our ‘biography,’ our partners, family, home, job, friends, credit cards… It is on their fragile and transient support that we rely for our security. So when they are all taken away, will we have any idea of who we really are?

Without our familiar props, we are faced with just ourselves, a person we do not know, an unnerving stranger with whom we have been living all the time but we never really wanted to meet. Isn’t that why we have tried to fill every moment of time with noise and activity, however boring or trivial, to ensure that we are never left in silence with this stranger on our own?

Sogyal Rinpoche

1. Set right yourself before seeking to set right the world.

2. Explore everything but cling to nothing.

3. Hold truth above personal preferences.

4. Realize that you are not seeking to get away or change but rather to no longer need to get away or change. The path is here and now, wherever you are.

The Lazy Yogi 

(Source: aconciousmind)

prowesssss asked: Dear Lazy Yogi, I love your posts and you are truly an inspiration! For the past 6 or 7 months I have felt extremely lost in life itself. I feel like I'm all over the place and can't seem to find myself. I'm scatter brained, confused about what I want and have trouble focusing on my goals. I'm very interested in meditation and all of this spirituality stuff but have trouble remaining consistent. What advice do you have for someone like me?

I think the motivation behind the spiritual path is an important thing to keep in perspective. It is nothing like the worldly motivation with which we are familiar. Worldly motivation is doing something because of a desired outcome. Spiritual motivation is doing something because of the way things are

1. Death

This is the biggest issue in western society. The typical perspective is that we cannot do anything about our death and so we shouldn’t trouble ourselves by thinking about it now. 

At the same time, our religious beliefs are full of contradictions. If we believe in a heaven and an afterlife, then why do we use death as a punishment? Why is the death of a loved one a sad thing?

Because we don’t fully grasp what it means to die, and that death could happen to us at any moment, we don’t have legitimately sane priorities. What’s on TV seems more relevant than the people starving in the streets. Keeping our ignorance happy becomes a full-time job. 

Go visit a hospital, a home for the elderly, and a cemetery. For those with a keen mindfulness of death’s continual inevitability, finding motivation for a daily meditation practice is not an issue. 

2. Impermanence

The perspective of impermanence follows from an understanding of death. 

All goals are temporary. You either achieve them or you don’t. Yet either way nothing changes. No achievement is eternal; no achievement survives death. 

All forms of pleasure and “wants” are meaningless. What one person finds pleasurable, another may find detestable. Furthermore, any happiness that comes from temporary things is just as temporary. 

With a thorough understanding of impermanence, our life and goals have nothing to do with what we want or desire. Instead, we use intelligence and insight to guide our outward circumstances within society. But the only place from which to know peace and happiness is the same place from which they are felt: within. 

Again, meditation. 

3. Love

No story is complete without an element of love. It doesn’t matter what is accomplished. If there is no love then there is no beauty to it.

With all this talk of death and impermanence, it is easy to forget Love. 

In all of our circumstances and relationships, we have placed limits on our love. That is called conditional love. The spiritual way is about liberating our love from any conditions. To unlimit love is the revelation of true happiness. 

Yet love does not come and go. We don’t need to chase after love from others nor fixate on loving others intensely. 

How we approach love depends on how we conceive of our identity. If we know ourselves as an individual defined by the limits of body and mind, then so too is our love defined and limited by those factors. 

Therefore to liberate our love, we need only to liberate ourselves from the false identities we have assumed. Or, conversely, if we liberate our love fully then we will liberate ourselves from identity. 

Meditation, devotion, prayer, loving, tonglen, art, and community service are just a few ways to explore this. 

Don’t be afraid to ask the big questions of life. We are thrown into these absurd societal conditions and then told to select our identity from a bullshit list of predefined choices and then to seek idiotic forms of happiness through those identities. If this doesn’t raise some questions then we’ve got a problem. 

Yet we don’t need to quit society in order to refrain from playing its accidental game. Awakening from our ignorance is good enough. Then the game becomes more like a party. 

A book I would highly recommend is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. 

Namaste sis :) Much love 

kevluvs asked: Can one enjoy the hedonistic pleasures of the earth and still remain enlightened; as in they are doing it just to enjoy rather than to find happiness or peace??

Enlightenment is your very existence.

Realize existence beyond the shadow of a doubt.

Then see what becomes of your question. 

Namaste brother. 

qualitatively analyzing atomic line spectra in physics class this morning

qualitatively analyzing atomic line spectra in physics class this morning

The way to change others’ minds is with affection, and not anger.

The Dalai Lama

Earth Day Contemplation

What does it mean to honor the Earth?

To me, it means appreciating something that typically goes unnoticed. 

All the time we see pictures and movies of geographically stunning landscapes. Those may be landscapes of beauty or landscapes of polluted decay.

From those images, we may form an idea or several about the Earth. Pollution, climate change, and clean energy are very important topics at this time in human history. 

But the Earth is not limited to our politics. Earth Day is an opportunity to develop or deepen your own firsthand relationship with the planet. 

It is very simple:

1. Find yourself a scrap of nature. If you live in a city like me, find a park, a tree, or a stretch of grass. If you live in the suburbs or country, then you need only step outside your door. 

2. Settle down with that piece of nature and take a few moments to allow yourself to adjust to its presence and languid pace. 

3. Look around. Is it not remarkable that a tree can live for a hundred years, if not thousands, without chasing after a single thing? How about the fact that birds make seasonal pilgrimages without plans and maps? Even a soft blade of grass can make its way through a solid layer of concrete. 

4. Recognize, in your own little piece of nature, the ways in which nothing stands on its own. Everything is supplied by something else and supplies something else. This is called interdependence

5. Now take a look at yourself. Society did not give birth to you. Society does not govern the physiological processes spontaneously occurring in your body. It is natural; it is nature.

6. Bring it home: You are here because the Earth wants you here. The Earth, which is nothing other than a living mass of dynamic interdependence, supports you unconditionally. You have never been apart from it, nor will you ever.

Without a firsthand appreciation for and personal relationship with Earth, how can we work for peace and harmony amongst humanity? How can we push for change without falling prey to enmity and resentment? 

We should not for one moment fail to appreciate the blessing of this planet and the spontaneously intricate dance that is life

Namaste friends. 

Be yourself—not your idea of what you think somebody else’s idea of yourself should be.

Henry David Thoreau

xodaizzy asked: I'm not a Christian but I hve no idea what I believe. I believe that humans have powers that the earth gives them but they must first recognize it. I don't believe in an invisible god but I believe in a higher being. May you please help me or guide me. Because I hve no idea how to honestly tell someone my beliefs

Truth is for all but belief is for the individual. Beliefs are personal tools, they are not truths to spread. Even now you say that you have no idea what you believe yet then you list several beliefs and then express an interest in sharing those beliefs with others. What’s the point?

At its best, belief is meant to be a kind of scaffolding for the path. Until you have come to experience certain things for yourself, you follow the guidance of those whom you trust. Once you begin to click with reality, belief becomes the certainty born of direct experience. That certainty is not defensive nor assertive, it is just a willingness to discover what is real without the limit of our personal preferences. 

When it comes to others, we tend to place too much emphasis on sharing our beliefs. More often than not, another person will be more moved by your love and kindness than the verbalization of your beliefs. Don’t explain your path, live it. That is the primary means of conveying our peace and love to others. 

This compulsion to have things you believe in and things you don’t believe in is the mind’s game of agreement and disagreement. It is one way the ego fastens an identity together. 

Gravity doesn’t care whether or not you agree with it. Step off a cliff and you will plunge to your death. So it also goes with reality.

Don’t get caught up in the game of belief. Step outside your preconceived notions and imaginations. Dare to uncover the truth behind reality without yet knowing what it is you will discover. That is openness. 

A recommended place to start is with daily meditation and the books The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. 

Namaste :) Much love.